Virtually the Best Part-Time Job Ever

Virtually speaking, I have the BEST Part-Time Job Ever!  No wait… I DO have the best “virtual” part-time job ever!  My part time job is a virtual (online, work form home) deal… so it’s a virtual job, but it’s also virtually one of the best decisions I’ve ever made!  Are you confused yet?




No seriously though… on December 31st, 2014 I decided that I wanted to stop hosting Pampered Chef parties in my house, and start running them on Facebook as a “virtual” consultant.  Really I just wanted free product if I can speak honestly and selfishly.  That’s the truth.  I had no idea that this part-time, work from home, job would be a life-changer for me, and it has been.

So here I am, 8 months later, and I have “fast-tracked” to Director, have a team of over 10 AWESOME consultants all over the country, have earned over $2,000 in FREE PRODUCT since January, and have saved enough money to take my kids to Disney World for eight days, all paid for in advance with my little part-time job.  My plan next year with my PC business is to pay off my car loan a year or two early.

Now that’s a part-time job I can get my head around and embrace!

Maybe you lie awake at night thinking about any or all of the following:

  • How am I going to pay for my child’s college education?
  • How am I going to get out of all this credit card debt?
  • How will I pay for my daughter’s wedding?
  • Will I have enough money to retire?
  • When will I be able to spoil my family with an awesome vacation?
  • Where will the money come from to by Christmas presents this year?

All of these things can be solved by starting your Pampered Chef business today!  You can join my team from anywhere in the United States, and be a part of something that is so much bigger than yourself! (You’ll need some basic info from me to get signed up – so contact me first!)

Here are some additional things to ask yourself or consider:








Are you ready to join my team?  Contact me today with your questions, concerns or interest!

Email Me Today to get started!




20 Reasons to Have a Pampered Chef Facebook Party with SocialPMChick!

20 Reasons to Host a Pampered Chef Facebook PartyI spent hours creating this infographic last weekend and am finally getting around to sharing it!  

Contact me to schedule your Facebook party, no matter where you live!


Click the image to see FULL SIZE!

Help Me, Help the Homeless in #ROC

Last winter I created a stir with an Arm Knitting event to support Open Door Mission. A small idea turned into a big event with a LOT of community support. Many of us gathered to arm-knit scarves for the homeless in Rochester, NY to keep them warm during the cold months. The event also brought in cash donations and clothing donations. It was amazing.

The Open Door Mission of Rochester, NY has left a mark on my heart. I feel I have to do something each an every year now to show my support and to help serve the least of these. That is what Jesus expects of me, so I am called to do this.

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My goal is to raise $5,000 in cash donations.

That’s 250 people donating $20.  That’s DOABLE!  

Imagine, how many lives can be changed by a warm meal, a message of Christ’s love, and the other services that The Open Door Mission provides.

There was a time in my life when I felt hopeless, beyond help… so I thought.  I was weighed down by the bondage of addiction (not to substance but to gambling)… an addiction that nearly cost me everything. I could have easily found myself penniless and homeless as a result. But thanks be to God, I found hope and restoration and have been free of my addiction for 7 years! Now it’s time for me to pay it forward.


This year, I am hosting a multi-layered-fundraiser… and there are several ways to get involved:


Make a Cash Donation via Crowdrise.  100% of your cash donation will benefit the Open Door Mission.  50% is given directly in cash, and the other 50% is used to purchase new cooking equipment and tools for the meals prepared for the homeless.

Click to donate cash via Crowdrise


Place a product order through this Pampered Chef Fundraiser. Order Christmas gifts, or items you had planned to pick up anyway.  20% of your order is donated directly to the Open Door Mission of Rochester.

Click to order products from The Pampered Chef Fundraiser.


Book an ONLINE Pampered Chef Party through this fundraiser. This is a way for you to earn free products from the Pampered Chef, and when you do book a Facebook Pampered Chef party – $3 automatically gets donated on your behalf!  That’s so easy!

Email me today and say “I want to host a party so Pampered Chef will donate $3!”

If you can’t do any of these things that’s okay! You can still help by spreading the word about this fundraiser, sharing it to your Facebook wall, Tweeting about it, Sharing it on LinkedIn and Google+.

Together we can raise $5,000 to support such an important mission – God’s work done through The Open Door Mission of Rochester, NY.

Thank you for reading!  Remember to share.  Share what you have been given in this life with someone who maybe right now needs a little bit of HOPE.

Pampered Chef Virtual Party Training – Fall 2015

Great!  You’ve booked a Facebook (Virtual) Pampered Chef Party!  Now what?
First thing you need to determine is the party type:
  • Catalog Show:  Typically runs 10-14 days with a Facebook event and 1-2 posts by you per day
  • Live Facebook Event:  Typically the event gets created 10 days before the date, and you post one thing each day leading up to the live 60-90 minute event.
Host Coaching is CRITICAL to the success of your Virtual Parties!  Even more so than cooking shows.  Believe me, I have learned this the hard way.  Coaching your hosts means you work smarter and not harder, and you’ll have higher show sales and more bookings.
  1. Create the show in your Consultant account on
  2. Mail out your Host Packet (try to send it 2 weeks before the show minimum):
    • Host Letter
    • Catalog(s)
    • Order Forms(s)
    • Monthly Guest Special
    • Host Incentive Coupons (optional)
      • Get 3 bookings and get an extra $10 FREE
      • Collect 15 orders and get an extra $15 Free with a $700 show
      • Apply $25 of my Host Credits towards a New Consultant Kit
    • Fridge Reminder Sheet with all the show dates.
    • Join My Team pamphlet
  3. Send the Host Email through your Show setup tabs.
    • Let them know the order link
    • Important dates
    • Mention the coupons and the host packet
    • Mention the 15 order goal
  4. Create the Facebook Event, Invite Your Host and Make the an Event Host
    • For Catalog Shows set the start and end dates
    • For Live Shows, set the actual event date and time (and include time zone)
    • Be sure to include a good event description:
      • Date/Time of Event
      • How to order with Link (I use to create easy to remember and SHORT links)
      • Your contact info
      • Order deadline
      • Host booking challenge or other incentives
      • Monthly Guest Specials
    • Note:  I started out using Facebook groups, but have shifted to only using groups.  There are limitations and advantages to both, but I feel the Events put the GUESTS first:
      • Guests get to choose to join or not join.  This makes them happy
      • You can message all RSVPd guests privately with personal messages
      • They get a reminder on Facebook before the event starts
      • Downside – Guests cannot tag other guests
      • People do not like to be added to all the party groups out there, and the groups are hard to delete after the party – you have to INDIVIDUALLY remove each guests after the party until they are all gone and then when you remove yourself you can delete the group.  If you have 200 guests, this takes FOREVER.
  5. Message your Host via Facebook and give them a quick and easy message they can post on their personal Facebook wall – AFTER they have invited all their friends about the party.  Here’s an example of what I send them – (I typically see 5-10 immediate RSVPs in my host events after they post this on their wall):
    • Hey Everyone! I am hosting a LIVE Pampered Chef Party on FACEBOOK!
      When: DATE/TIME
      Where: FACEBOOK

      Party in your PJs!

      How it works:
      Join this Facebook event: PUT FACEBOOK EVENT LINK HERE

      And then show up ON FACEBOOK on August 19th at 8PM EST

      We’ll spend about an hour together playing games, sharing recipes and products, giving you a chance to shop, WIN PRIZES, and have fun!

      Online Ordering: INSERT LINK HERE

      Order Deadline: CLOSE DATE

      I’ve also been challenged to get 3 bookings for Facebook or Catalog Parties – you can help her earn an extra $10 Free by Booking a Party from her! Facebook parties are fun and Easy!

      Contact my consultant if you need help ordering (She’s awesome and friendly!):
      Wendy Kay Emerson
      Phone/Text: 585-690-9027
      or send her a Facebook message!

    • Leading up to the event I typically post once a day.  Not much more than that.  I might show a product video, share a recipe, a recruiting post, booking post, or even play a guessing game or something.  If you post once a day, your guests get a single notification – it’s not overwhelming and it’s keep the party front of mind so they remember to show up, or with a catalog show to place their order.
    • The Day Before the Event I post a reminder that the show is tomorrow, and I usually send a private Facebook message to all those who RSVP’d Yes or Maybe (I DON’T SEND GROUP MESSAGES – THAT IS A HUGE TURN-OFF) – always include the link for ordering in case they now cannot make the live event.
    • The Day of the event I post a handful of times leading up to the event, and promote that I will be doing an On-Time Drawing right out of the gate.  This encourages people to get there on time.  I draw a name, and usually just give away a Season’s Best or Citrus Peeler.  Nothing expensive.  You could even do a $5 Coupon or something simple.
    • Once it’s LIVE Party time, I follow a pretty standard script.  I journey through the ENTIRE catalog making sure the guests see every product (in groups).
      • Tip:  In the beginning I used to show the products that I liked… I’ve learned the hard way to promote the entire catalog, and focus on the bigger ticket items, like Forged Cutlery, Cookware, etc.
      • Use the Pampered Chef YOU TUBE channel, they have great demo videos!
      • Consultant’s Corner now has images we can use in our Virtual Parties
      • Take the script and make it YOUR OWN:  Share your experiences and favorite recipes. Talk about how products save you time, or your kids love using them.  Promote unique ways you use them – I make Corn Dog Squares in the Brownie Pan.  I make chicken dinners in the microwave in 15 minutes in my Round Covered Baker.  Make is personal.  Talk about your Favorites!
      • Make sure you NUMBER your Live Event posts, so guests who join late can easily catch up.
      • Ask your guests to LIKE ever post so you know they are staying caught up and seeing your posts.
      • Remind them to Refresh their screen often.
      • Pause on posts when you need to if there is a lot of conversation and interest, add additional info in comments, like links to videos, etc. But don’t pause too long.  You really want to get this party done in UNDER 90 minutes.
      • I also inject games into my parties every 5 posts or so – like unscramble words.  I offer “entries” into a drawing at the end and give away another prize.  This is OPTIONAL, but you are responsible for the prizes.  I used to give away A LOT in the beginning and I’ve learned that it’s not necessary.  Guests are just as happy with little gifts/prizes as they are with big ones.  
      • IF YOU DO GIVEAWAYS outside of the normal host benefits – please be aware, you are responsible to cover the cost of those in the show cart as a Consultant Gift.
    • As the party is winding down, I remind the about the Guest Special, Booking incentives and the opportunity.
    • As the orders are coming in THANK EVERY GUEST PERSONALLY for ordering (or booking) by posting a special post just for them and tagging them in the event feed.
      • Your ordering guests do not want to wait for their orders.
      • And Credit Card Authorizations can expire making it harder to close your chose and chase payments down if you wait too long.
      • Products can sell out before the order goes in and that can create unhappy customers.  Our customers and hosts happiness are the NUMBER ONE PRIORITY.
    • I typically run them the same as the live events, only I space out the Catalog posts over the duration of the party.  The script is slightly modified to adjust for the show style and pace as well.
      • Guests don’t need to like each post “to continue” but you might encourage the to like each post for a chance to win a prize at the end (optional) – this keeps them engaged.
      • I have run games like This or That, or live Bingo during catalog events, this is another nice way to showcase products and get guests involved.
      • Use the Numbered Posts method in Catalog Parties too, it helps your guests understand how to follow along.
  • You can still do full-service checkout on virtual shows:
    • Call, Email or Facebook message each guest thanking them for their order.
      • This allows you to share the opportunity or explore the option of each guest booking a party with you.
      • It builds relationships
  • Once the show is submitted post in the (Past) event letting them know the orders have been submitted and that their payments have been processed.
  • When they party ships, go back in one last time and post letting them know it’s shipped and it’s on it’s way!
    • If you Shipped to your host, be sure to get in touch with them to make arrangements to pick up your order!  :)
  • Post a link to your Facebook Page, Website or Contact info, so your guests know where to find you AFTER the party for good customer service.
TOOLS: (URL Shortener)
Vanilla Pen (iPhone app to create images for FB) (Pampered Chef’s YouTube Channel)
Party Script:
(Make it your own!)
Wendy Kay Emerson
Independent Director
(585) 690-9027

How to shuck an ear of corn in 25 seconds.

If you are like me, you LOVE local corn on the cob, and it’s the season in Upstate, NY!

The time of year I’ve been waiting for… “knee high by the 4th of July” my husband always says when I get antsy waiting for local corn! We had our first batch of local corn this past weekend…  I always get the un-fun job of shucking the corn and pulling off all the little silk strands – but this year I decided I wasn’t going to let that get me down!

I figured out a way with one simple tool, to shuck an ear of corn in just about 25 seconds. You see, I had seen this video where someone cut off the bottom of the ear of corn and just pulled the ear our, but that didn’t work for me (I think it was video trickery personally) – so I came up with my own solution!

This trick features the 8″ Forged Cutlery Chef’s Knife from Pampered Chef, and the Large Flexible Cutting Mats that come in a set of 3. This video is unedited other than my putting text in it.  The corn is completely raw – nothing had been done to it before my 9 year old son recorded me doing this.

So easy!   Simply cut the end off where the stalk is.  Make a slice in the side of the husk from bottom to top (don’t cut too deep).  Spread open the slice and pull the ear of corn out.  It’s really that simple!  Then you have a few silk stands to pull off, but that’s it!  I did a dozen ears this way in about 5 minutes give or take.

8" Forged Cutlery Pampered Chef Knife
The best chef’s knife you will ever own. Under $80. Fully Forged. Comes with a LIFETIME GUARANTEE.

The Forged Cutlery from Pampered Chef is amazing!  You can by them in single knives or as a set.  Here are some features and benefits of Pampered Chef Forged Cutlery:

  • Finely crafted using a multistep forging process for enhanced hardness and density
  • Fully forged, high-carbon German steel for a perfect edge and sharpness, stain and corrosion resistance, and superior strength and durability
  • Full tang for strength and perfect balance
  • Tapered blade for precise cutting
  • Gracefully contoured, chip-resistant handle for a comfortable grip
  • Etching indicating high-grade German steel
  • Protective storage cover to keep hands safe and knife protected

You can order this knife directly by clicking here:  Order Now!

Or if you’d like to get it for HALF PRICE, consider booking a FACEBOOK or Virtual Party with me and earn it for half price, or even FREE!  Virtual Parties are a snap.  I do all the work, and you don’t have to clean your house, buy ingredients, or worry about cancellations!  :)

Arm Knitting for Rochester’s Homeless: #RocScarfFest 1-25-15


I was sitting in my car yesterday, waiting for my kids to get on the school bus, heat was blaring, seat warmer on, scanning my Facebook news feed.  A story catches my attention about the Code Blue Alert issued by Open Door Mission of Rochester.

It completely stopped me dead in my tracks.

Here’s a follow up to that original story:  Open Door Mission continues ‘Code Blue Alert’

I learned how to arm knit just a few weeks ago, and as I read this article, I looked down at my soft wool infinity scarf draped around my neck that I was using as an accessory – not a necessity.  It hit me – I need to make these. Lots and lots of these scarves for Rochester’s homeless. Jesus says we are to serve the least of these, and so that is what I would like to do. My hope and prayer is to bring together people in our community to arm-knit scarves which will be delivered to Rochester’s Open Door Mission to distribute to those they care for.

So I decided to have an Arm Knitting Party on Sunday, January 25th, 2015 from 10am-4pm.  

So here is how YOU can get involved:

1)  Show up on the 25th and make a scarf!  

Here’s the Facebook Event Page:

NO KNITTING EXPERIENCE NECESSARY!  There are no knitting needles involved and it takes about an hour or so to make one scarf using two spools of yarn.  WE WILL TEACH YOU!


2)  Donate Yarn or Finance a Scarf.

Each scarf costs between $8-$12 to make using 2 spools of bulky (5 or 6 ounce) yarn.  Yarn can cost between $3-$6 a spool.  There are willing bodies to make the scarves, we need the yarn.

Make a financial donation or GoFundMe or mail it in. Yarn or financial donations can should go to Wendy Emerson at:

equaTEK Interactive
668A Phillips Rd
Victor, NY  14564

3)  Make a scarf in advance!

Can’t make the event?  Make a scarf or two in advance and drop it off or mail it to the address above.  My goal is 100 scarves to be delivered to Open Door Mission.  Here’s a How To Arm Knit tutorial to get you started – if I can learn this anyone can!

4)  Sponsor the event with refreshments or a financial donation.

I’d love to get local businesses involved.  Any and all monies collected through this event will go to the scarves.  All refreshments for the knitters will either be donated or purchased privately.  This is a great way for businesses to get involved to support our local community! Contact me at wemerson (at) if you would like to get involved at a business level.  We will promote your business with any contribution.

5)  Volunteer! 

I am but one person.  I have a few friends offer up help, but I will want some people to help me teach the knitting on the day of the event and just be there to lend a helping hand.  Email me at wemerson (at) if you are interested in just volunteering.

6)  Spread the word!

Get the word out about this event. Share this blog post, share the Facebook Event, Tweet it out (you can find tweets in my Twitter feed to ReTweet!).  You’ll find me on Twitter as @SocialPMChick. Post a link on LinkedIn.  Do you part!  Email your friends and family a link to this article!

7)  Create a Satellite Event for #RocScarfFest in your community.

The event will be held at the Honeoye Falls-Mendon Volunteer Ambulance Facility at 210 East Street, Honeoye Falls, NY  14472.

The location of this event may not work for everyone interested!  Host a small party at your house or in your neighborhood on the day of the event.  Let me know about it so we can spread the word about what YOU are doing to help grow this event.  Let’s turn it into a MOVEMENT!

Just please get involved one way or another!  ONE scarf can make a huge difference in someone’s life!

Peanut Butter Buckeyes – No Bake Treats

Peanut Butter Buckeyes are a family favorite in my house.  I went a little nuts at Christmas with all the cookies, but it seems I always find my way back to the peanut butter and chocolate combinations.  My husband couldn’t stay away from these sweet treats, and finally got to the point where he asked me to stop giving them away!  To which I replied, “don’t worry love, there’s more in the freezer!”

I took the extra peanut butter mixture and froze it and today will make a nice batch for hubby (without the green and red accents of course).

This recipe has the least ingredients of any cookies I make, and requires no oven time, so you can work on them while you have other goodies in the oven!  It does require patience, however, because it’s a multi-step process.

Your Ingredients:

6 Cups of Powered Sugar (1.5 lbs)

16 ounces of Creamy Peanut Butter

1/2 Pound (2 sticks) of Butter

16 Ounces of Melting Chocolate (or perhaps a little more).

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How to make Buckeyes:

  1. Set up 2 cookies sheets with either wax paper, or silicone baking mats.  I prefer the silicone mats from Pampered Chef – they work perfectly!  Wax paper will work just fine – but for best results with wax paper, line your cookie sheets and chill them for about 30 minutes first.
  2.  Mix together your powered sugar, butter and peanut butter in a large mixing bowl.  Your mixture will be a little crumbly, but it’s moldable so that’s okay.
  3. Make individual balls with the dough about an inch in size, placing them on your prepared cookie sheets.
  4. Chill peanut butter balls for about an hour (or a little less)
  5. Place toothpicks in your peanut butter balls to be used as handles when dipping in chocolate.
  6. Using a double boiler, melt your chocolate till it’s creamy smooth and free of lumps.
  7. Using your toothpicks as a handle, roll your peanut butter balls in the melted chocolate and place back on the cookie sheet.
  8. Refrigerate and serve.

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Note:  Traditional buckeye’s are not fully submerged in chocolate and resemble an eye. With the chocolate lovers in my house, I fully submerge them in chocolate, and then adorn with non-perils for a festive finish!


Once your buckeyes are fully chilled and your chocolate has hardened, you can store them in a tupperware container placing wax paper between layers.

Pampered Chef Products I used to make these:

Cookies Sheets $19.00
Double Boiler $21.50
Silicone Baking Mat $28.40







Ask me how you can earn these products FREE from Pampered Chef!


Chocolate Peanut Butter Banana Bread on Steroids


New Year’s Day – post holiday cleanup.  The tree is put away.  The cookies are all but gone, and the leftovers are long since eaten…  This morning I spot ripe bananas in the bowl.  Ripe because I haven’t made many healthy food choices in the last 2 weeks, and picked cookies over fruit. So, what does one do?  One makes banana bread!  I am not an expert at Banana Bread, so off to Pinterest I went to find just the right recipe… I was thinking maybe banana bread with chocolate chips in it.  Then I thought… peanut butter and banana!  That’s it!

So I can’t take credit for this Chocolate Peanut Butter Banana Bread, it’s from Back for Seconds, but the photos are my own.

Here are your Ingredients:


  • 1/3 cup creamy peanut butter
  • 1/2 cup canola oil
  • 3 medium very ripe bananas
  • 1/2 cup cocoa powder
  • 1 cup granulated sugar
  • 2 eggs
  • 1/2 cup milk
  • 1 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1 3/4 cup all purpose flour


  • 2 tablespoons creamy peanut butter
  • 1/4 cup mini semi sweet chocolate chips


Preheat oven to 350

In a large mixing bowl beat the peanut butter, oil, bananas, cocoa, and sugar until well combined. Mix in the eggs and milk. Add the baking soda and flour and mix on low just until combined.

Pour batter into a Pampered Chef Loaf Stoneware and bake for 40 – 50 minutes or until tester inserted into the center of the bread comes out clean or with crumbs. Let cool at least 20 minutes before removing from pan. Let cool completely.

Once bread has cooled, melt peanut butter in the microwave for about 20-30 seconds until thin enough to drizzle. Spoon into a baggie and snip the very corner off. Drizzle over bread and immediately sprinkle with chocolate chips.

Store in a sealed container, and Enjoy!

Here are some of my favorite Pampered Chef products I used to make this yummy bread:

Cake Tester $5.00
Measuring Spoons $9.00
Measuring Cups $16.50
Loaf Stoneware $25.50
Scoop & Spread $8.50




Spicy Lime Chicken Noodle Soup – SocialPMChick Style

I love to take recipes and make them my own. I found this recipe on Pinterest, and adapted it to my liking. It’s the fashizzle if I do say so myself! It’s been months, and I’ve made this soup three times already and brought it for the gang at work. One of the guys at work has been asking and asking for the recipe, and I just needed a few quiet minutes to get it written down – (Mike V). So here it is:  It needs a new name.

Here are the ingredients Mike (or Mike’s wife):

  • 4 Cups Low Sodium (Organic) Chicken Stock
  • 4 Cups Water
  • 2 Pounds Boneless Chicken Breast
  • 4 Large Jalapeños
  • 1 large Poblano Pepper
  • 1 (14 ounce) Can Northern White Beans
  • 1/2 Package Whole Grain Egg Noodles
  • 2 (16 ounce) Jars Salsa Verde
  • 4 Limes
  • 1/2 Teaspoon Salt
  • Shredded Cheese for Serving

The original recipe also had onions, cilantro and sour cream.


Bring the chicken broth and water to a rolling boil in a large pot.  Add the raw chicken breasts to the boiling liquid and cook, covered, for 10 minutes. Remove from heat but lead the lid on so the chicken continues to cook. Allow to sit for 20 minutes.

After 20 minutes check the chicken to make sure there is no pink left in the middle.  If thoroughly cooked, remove chicken and set aside to cool.

Skim any chicken fat, as necessary, by pouring the broth through a fine sieve or cheese cloth.  Once strained, return the broth to pot and place over medium heat.  By now the chicken should be cool enough – shred chicken by hand, or with 2 forks, and drop back into the broth.

Mince the Jalapeños and Poblano pepper in food processor.  All together, add the pepper mixture, white beans, and salsa verde to the pot.

Simmer for 20 minutes of medium heat.  Add one half package of whole grain egg noodles and allow to simmer for 10 minutes.  Just before serving, squeeze the juice of one lime directly into the soup, and add 1/2 teaspoon salt.

Cut remaining limes in wedges for serving, and serve with shredded cheese.

Tell me what you think!  It this the bomb or is it not?

(I cannot take credit for the photo, that came from the original recipe post.



The difference between having “idle time” and having “free time” is huge.

I came to a big realization this week about how I use the “free time” in my life these days. As a gambling addict in recovery, I now have the blessing to be able to give back by working my 12th step in sharing the good news of hope and freedom. I am able to spend time now teaching and sharing the Good News through the ministry that has changed my life. I no longer fight my old way of life, but continue to build the new…


In April of this year, I will celebrate 5 years of freedom from my gambling addiction – and God is using me now to share the good news of recovery and freedom – and as I teach lessons on the 12 steps, I love how God teaches me in the process

This past week I shared a teaching at Celebrate Recovery on being READY. More specifically, being ready for the changes God wants to make in our lives and humbly asking Him to remove our character defects.  Every time I have the opportunity to teach, it means I have to dig deep into that topic, and reflect on whatever the step is in the 12-step process. In this past week’s teaching it was Step 6.

Each teaching in the Celebrate Recovery 12-Step lessons has an acrostic that maps out the discussion topic, and for READY, it was as follows:

R:  Release control

E:  Easy does it

A:  Accept the change

D:  Do replace your character defects

Y:  Yield to growth

What I learned this time around, came from the letter D in the acrostic. “Do replace your character defects.” I had to reflect on how my life has changed since walking away from gambling.  During the years I gambled, it ate up all of my spare time… my idle time. I chose gambling because in my idle time I had to think about things in my past that caused me pain or made me unhappy. During my idle time, as I begin to think those yucky thoughts, it was easier to fill that time with something to escape those feelings, and for me it was gambling – sitting in front of a mindless slot machine and not thinking about anything… For others it’s alcohol, food, drugs, shopping, sex, pornography – for me it was gambling…

We turn those things because we don’t want to feel, and usually we have to “feel” when we sit idle with our thoughts.

But it came to me as I wrote the teaching that I don’t consider myself to even have “idle” time anymore. I have filled my life with so many good things including:

  • my alone time with God in the morning,
  • my service and leadership in the Celebrate Recovery ministry where I found my healing,
  • continuing to work the 12-steps in recovery by leading women’s step-study groups,
  • spending quality time with my children,
  • devoting special time to my marriage to make my husband feel loved and appreciated (this might usually include a few games of Yahtzee, or Scrabble)
  • cooking and baking for others out of love,
  • racing – anything and everything auto racing – both at our local dirt track, and NASCAR – we try to get to 2 NASCAR events a year, and we also work at our local dirt racing track every week during the season.

All of this, coupled with a full-time job I love, and some really amazing friends I try to carve out special time for – makes me a very busy person. But with that, I still have extra time where I think thoughts, and feel things. But now, from where I sit, free from addiction and the hurts of my past, I don’t consider that “idle” time anymore. I am FREE through God’s grace and mercy – so that down time now I call “free” time.

If I were sitting idle without freedom from my addiction, I’d probably be back there again. But I am not. I am free, and with my free time I choose to do good things that bring real joy to my life.

Maybe this makes sense to only me – but there is a huge difference between having “idle time” and having “free time.” I wrote this, today because I had some free time, and in my free time was thinking about my recovery journey.

If you are sitting there with idle time on your hands think about this – nothing changes… if nothing changes.


Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes


Ask yourself… Would you rather have “idle time,” or would you rather have “free time?”